Questions to ask when you are first dating
Not trying to change you, but trying to bring the best to the top.A spouse should be like a gold miner, going under the surface to uncover the invaluable stuff underneath.One of the greatest causes for conflict in marriage are contradicting core values.I’d describe core values as beliefs that are fundamental to how you are wired, guiding your actions, thoughts, plans, and purpose on this earth.Original Photo by Leland Francisco Marriage is like rolling Play-Doh, the more two different colors are meshed together the harder it becomes to distinguish one from another.In marriage you begin to rub off on each other, subtly taking on traits and characteristics of the other.
If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.
Are you fitting and conforming to some abstract idea of what you think they want?
Or are you blossoming and flourishing into who you really are?
Sure we’re not our parents and we can work to change our communication habits.
However, for many of us our fallback communication plan will be the one our parents laid out for us.
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Do you feel fragmented when you’re with your partner or do you feel whole? Is your partner trying to force you to become like some figment of their unrealistic dating imagination?