Can 11 year olds dating
Even 14- and 15-year-olds can fall in love, Reardon says.
“To a child or teenager who is experiencing this, it is very real and very important,” she says.
Young teens have especially fragile egos, so negative peer feedback on social media can be especially damaging.
Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase.
Megan*, a senior at Myers Park High School in Charlotte, says only about 20 percent of these relationships result in an official couple.
Jennifer*, a junior at Sanderson High School in Raleigh, notes that while it’s not cool to “talk” to more than one person at a time, some people go from one talking “relationship” to another without actually dating anyone, which tends to explain the relatively low numbers of actual couples.
Johnny may still ask Suzy to be his date, but only after the “group” has decided who will go with whom.
A fairly high bar stands between this phase and actual “dating,” wherein one member of the couple — usually the boy — officially asks the other out.
Of course, kids who already have relationships — and even some still in the talking phase — will go with that special person, but still as part of a group. If that’s the case, the only thing you can do is offer support and perhaps plan a trip or outing for that night.
To college students, hooking up means having casual sex.
For high schoolers, it can mean that, too, but usually refers to making out at parties or get-togethers.
Kids hook up with people they’ve just met, casual acquaintances and even friends. Jennifer, when asked if hooking up with a guy meant a girl had a crush on him, says dismissively, “Nope.” And Megan concurs: “It would seem very strange to me that a girl would think there’s something there” after a hookup.