19 year old guy dating a 16 year old
I'm painting a bleak picture I know but I think it's a bit more realistic than the happy sunny picture a lot of other people paint of such an un-equal relationship.And yeah there's nothing much you can do about it other than express disapproval when they're both 'consenting adults' but there are adults and there are adults, so yes, I do reserve my right to disapprove in general (while conceding that in certain rare circumstances it may work out well).Well I told my older sister and she told my mother so technically I didn't tell but my mother doesn't know what to do.My younger sister has a history of telling lies about who she's socialising with and what she gets up to when she goes out and despite numerous talks with her six older siblings (she's the youngest in the family) she can't seem to see the problem with this.I won't say anything about it because I learned long ago that nobody (myself most certainly included) is going to listen to anybody else where their sex-life is concerned and, as somebody here pointed out, 19 is above the age of consent in every state, but here's another weirdity (is that a word?)- the lady he just broke up with was a grandmother.OK part of me says it's her life and she should do what she wants, and we can't lock her up because she's not a minor anymore, but I honestly do question the motivation of the average 35 year old man who wants to go out with a 19 yr old.He's either too much of a loser to get someone his own age or he is mainly motivated by sex rather than a desire to build a 'future' with his partner (and equal partners?
I'm curious to see what others think: if you had friends in this type of relationship, would you think "She's a BABY! My parents had an 18 year age difference (she was 16 and he was 34 when they married [and he was her high-school teacher]- this was rural Alabama in the early 1950s when that wasn't so scandalous) and the marriage lasted for 30 years. (It wasn't a happy union, it's just that its unhappiness got tenure.) How much of my parents' unhappiness was based in the age difference I don't know, but I can't shake the feeling that when a guy goes after a gal half-his-age, however else he may justify it the lust for firm young flesh is high on the list of REAL motivations (not to say that he can't be intellectually attracted as well). Maybe you would do well to adopt my motto: I don't care WHAT you do, as long as you don't do it to me. at a small Liberal Arts College in New England, I'll say this. On the other hand, this does seem a bit icky to me. Before I started dating men twenty years older than me, I dated men the same age as myself, and one much younger.
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I have a co-worker with whom I'm work chums (we're not bosom buddies but we like each other at work- I'm sure you've had one).
He ended a long-term relationship last year (non live-in) and I was glad when he said he'd met someone who really "did it for him"- bright, vivacious, intellectual and, I just learned when I met her- 19 years old. (He's technically a professor but he's non-teaching, so she's not ever going to be in any of his classes, so that's not an issue.) Hmmm...
she's certainly cute and seems really nice, but I can't get over the age difference.